COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY TO CONNECTION
BUT AUTISM SPECTRUM COUPLES DON'T SPEAK THE SAME LANGUAGE
"Every conversation ends up in a fight."
R.S. - Autistic spouse
"Now we just barely talk."
K.P - Neurotypical spouse
"We're roommates, at best."
J. M. - Neurotypical spouse
"The constant criticism is awful. Sometimes I just hide from her."
A. P. - Autistic Spouse
"I just want to be heard"
C. M. - Neurotypical Spouse
"I want to understand what she needs from me."
R.M. - Autistic Partner
"I want us to be be close and connected!"
T. M - Neurotypical Spouse
YOU CAN'T FIX A PROBLEM THAT YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND.
SO LET'S CHANGE THAT.
THIS IS WHAT IS HELPING OTHER INDIVIDUALS, and COUPLES JUST LIKE YOU:
COMMUNICATION TRANSFORMATION FOR SPECTRUM RELATIONSHIPS
A 6-week coaching group created to help you go from PAINFUL FIGHTING to CONNECTED COMMUNICATION.
PERCEIVING IS BELIEVING
This is perhaps THE BIGGEST cause of PAIN and DISCONNECTION in autism spectrum relationships.
Putting it simply..
We all assign meaning to conversations and interactions from our own point of view.
Autistic partners often fail to recognize that partners have their OWN perspective.
Neurotypical partners often assign the WRONG meaning to their partner's behavior and actions.
Both partners contribute to the painful disconnect.
Autistic partners BELIEVE their own perceptions to be truths, or facts, without recognizing the perspective, opinions, and feelings of their partners.
Because of this, autistic individuals PERCEIVE CRITICISM in conversations where partners present different perspectives or opinions. The MEANING they take away is "I was attacked." "I'm being criticized."
Neurotypical partners PERCEIVE CONTROL or ABUSE...GASLIGHTING. The MEANING they take away is "I am not valued. I am not loved," or "I'm being manipulated and abused."
Autistic partners often respond with anger, meltdowns, or shut-downs, and shut-outs. Future interactions may be AVOIDED. The gap between you has been widened.
Neurotypical partners feel deeply hurt, confused, and desperate for acknowledgment, affirmation and validation. They may share their pain in the hopes that their partners will at least care that they're hurting.
But, the the cycle repeats from the beginning.
And BOTH partners - who actually love and care for each other - have unknowingly reinforced the gap that is widening between them.
The STARTING point in BREAKING this cycle is UNDERSTANDING the stages of COMMUNICATION and FIXING the BREAKDOWN.
Most couples have NO IDEA HOW to communicate, and this is CRITICAL in AUTISM SPECTRUM RELATIONSHIPS.
This coaching group is for individuals (but couples are welcome - and registration is free for any partner). You will:
- Discover WHY most communication breaks down before it even starts - WHY this happens and HOW to fix it.
- Learn HOW to HEAR and be HEARD
- Dramatically decrease the frequency of arguments.
- Learn to quickly mediate disagreements with mutually acceptable solutions.
- Increase joint decision-making.
- Decrease power-struggles.
- Decrease criticism and resentment.
- Increase affirmation and validation.
- Increase your CONNECTION as a couple.
IN MY OWN AUTISM RELATIONSHIPS I FELT SO MISUNDERSTOOD.
I was accused of being critical (and I didn't understand why).
I felt hopeless and confused.
I thought I was losing my mind.
I felt ashamed that I couldn't fix my relationship. I felt angry. I felt HURT!
Sometimes I even had moments of uncharacteristic rage that shocked and scared me.
I tried hard. I requested talks so we could figure things out. My autistic partners both hated the talks, though.
BOTH OF THESE RELATIONSHIPS TAUGHT ME THAT COMMUNICATION IS A CRITICAL FOUNDATION.
My marriage of 19 years to the father of my children ended, after multiple attempts for help with different counselors. I realized years later that he is on the autism spectrum.
The other relationship with a man on the autism spectrum ended after 2.5 years.
I also learned that I was going about it all wrong and I figured out why.
NOW MY CAREER IS DEVOTED TO HELPING MEN AND WOMEN
FIX THEIR OWN AUTISM SPECTRUM RELATIONSHIPS
So, I created this 6-week COMMUNICATION TRANSFORMATION coaching group to help individuals and couples in autism spectrum relationships FIX THE COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN.
...and instead learn to CONNECT.
Groups are well-known for being powerful resources for positive growth and change.
ACTIVE PARTICIPATION IS NOT REQUIRED! No one will be "called upon" to speak, but you will get SO much more out of this group if you participate. Calls will be recorded for replay. Cameras/video will be turned OFF for members on Zoom.
Let's Get Acquainted
We will get to know each other in week one.
Introduction to Communication: I will introduce you to the FOUR STAGES OF COMMUNICATION.
STAGE ONE of Communication:
What we BRING to a Conversation
Our beliefs, values, definitions, cultural influences, goals, expectations, etc.
This is the stage that is the MOST overlooked and where a LOT of breakdown occurs.
You will learn to identify pitfalls BEFORE they happen.
STAGE TWO of Communication:
HOW we INTERACT
Body language (non-verbals); Vocal Tone; Approach; Assertive/Aggressive; Criticism; Avoidance
You will discover HOW to speak and listen in a way that connects versus disconnects; engages versus disengages; unites versus shuts down.
STAGE THREE of Communication:
The MEANING we take away.
Filters, Assumptions, Misinterpretations, Clarification
Many couples leave a conversation with totally different interpretations and understandings of what was said. This leads to massive confusion and future conflict.
You will discover HOW to ensure you both are CLEAR and have SHARED MEANING.
STAGE FOUR of Communication:
How we REMEMBER (RECALL) a conversation
Current mood, Interference, Intent, Motivation
Our memory is influenced by our current emotional state, but also subsequent interactions or new information.
You will learn to recognize these influences in how you recall your conversations with your partner. This will GREATLY decrease conflict about what was said previously, and improve "in the moment" communication.
We will discuss how you will INTENTIONALLY apply what you've learned going forward.
You will develop a strategy for your own accountability as an individual.
How Do We Meet?
Can I Get a Refund?
Is this for Couples or Just for Me?
Hi I'm Jodi!
You've found your way here, so that tells me you are confused. If you're in a long-term relationship, you're hurting. Maybe you don't even know much about the autism spectrum, and you're pretty scared - because a lot of what you've read online is daunting.
You want so badly to be happy, and to have the great relationship that you imagined - but, you're wondering if those hopes and dreams will ever become a reality.
I understand you. I've been there, myself - and I've met countless men and women who are in relationships like yours. You are my people and I'm here to help.
I look forward to helping you discover a whole new world of possibility in your relationship and in your life!
Communication Transformation Coaching Group
$500 (2 monthly payments of $250)
- 6 weeks of Curriculum-Based Group Coaching Calls
- 2 BONUS Calls
- Coaching Portal Account with Access to Recorded Coaching Calls
- Downloaded Slide Presentations
- Downloadable Workbook
- BONUS - LIFETIME Access to the SPECTRUM STRAIGHT TALK LIBRARY
- Spouses & Partners are FREE! (When you register for one partner, you'll receive instructions how to enroll your partner, if applicable).
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