In this 45-minute course, you'll discover:
- What actually causes conflict (it's not what you think)
- What conflict really is (also not what you think)
- And how to actually make specific changes in your relationship to STOP the cycle of conflict and START connecting with your partner
In case you skipped STEP 1, we will automatically send you the "BATTLE BUSTER SYSTEM ©" which is fundamental to minimizing your disagreements.
WHAT IS CONFLICT?
Most people think of this word to mean arguing, or disagreeing - fighting. It is an uncomfortable experience with an outcome that hurts.
It means someone is right and someone is wrong. It means someone will win and someone will lose.
It means negotiation, manipulation, persuasion, and strategic high pressure tactics.
It means feeling pressure, guilt, shame, obligation, defensiveness, and even fear.
For some, conflict is truly scary. It represents a threat to our mental, emotional, psychological, and even physical safety and well-being.
WHY WOULD ANYONE PURSUE CONFLICT?
Most individuals on the autism spectrum AVOID conflict - or at least avoid having a discussion beyond "I'm right. You're wrong."
However, some neurotypical individuals (not all) will often engage in conflict in an attempt to resolve a difference in opinion, as an attempt to voice a perspective, or to assert a position.
For "black and white" thinkers, like many neurodiverse individuals, there's not a lot of "gray."
- This means:
someone is right and someone is wrong.
- There is a correct or incorrect solution.
- There is a truth or a lie.
- There is a problem and a solution.
This type of thinking is also called "absolute." For this type of thinker, there is very little room for alternative perspectives or opinions.
Neurotypical (non-autistic) thinkers can be black and white thinkers, too, but will often consider more possibilities for options beyond "either/or."
Because of these differences in thinking, partners in a neurodiverse relationship often feel attacked and criticized by one another. Neurotypical partners feel dismissed and belittled by their autistic partners, and neurodiverse partners feel demeaned and disrespected.
This cycle of conflict and miscommunication is perpetuated over and over in their relationship….
….and it’s worse in spectrum relationships because of the added opportunity for communication errors and misinterpretation of language (both spoken and unspoken) because of how the neurotypical and neurodiverse brains interpret language and social interactions so differently.
In order to fix any problem you must first understand it.
So, I've recorded this webinar to help you identify the problem that is leading to conflict in your own relationship.
END THE CYCLE AND START CONNECTING!
STEP 2: CONFLICT - UNDERSTAND IT TO END IT
GET IT NOW FOR FREE (Reg $25)
PLUS A BONUS ++++
IN THIS COURSE YOU WILL ALSO BE INTRODUCED TO STEP 3:
THE 4-STAGE COMMUNICATION HACK
- STAGE 1: WHAT WE BRING
- STAGE 2: HOW WE INTERACT
- STAGE 3: THE MEANING WE TAKE
- STAGE 4: HOW WE RECALL IT
THIS COMMUNICATION METHOD HAS TOTALLY CHANGED THE LIVES OF PARTNERS AND COUPLES.
DON'T WASTE ANOTHER DAY IN CONFUSION AND HEARTBREAK.
Hi I'm Jodi!
You've found your way here, so that tells me you are confused. If you're in a long-term relationship, you're hurting. Maybe you don't even know much about the autism spectrum, and you're pretty scared - because a lot of what you've read online is daunting.
You want so badly to be happy, and to have the great relationship that you imagined - but, you're wondering if those hopes and dreams will ever become a reality.
I understand you. I've been there, myself - and I've met countless men and women who are in relationships like yours. You are my people and I'm here to help.
I look forward to helping you discover a whole new world of possibility in your relationship and in your life!
IN MY OWN AUTISM RELATIONSHIPS I FELT SO MISUNDERSTOOD.
I was accused of being critical (and I didn't understand why).
I felt hopeless and confused.
I thought I was losing my mind.
I felt ashamed that I couldn't fix my relationship. I felt angry. I felt HURT!
Sometimes I even had moments of uncharacteristic rage that shocked and scared me.
I tried hard. I requested talks so we could figure things out. My autistic partners both hated the talks, though.
BOTH OF THESE RELATIONSHIPS TAUGHT ME THAT COMMUNICATION IS A CRITICAL FOUNDATION.
My marriage of 19 years to the father of my children ended, after multiple attempts for help with different counselors. I realized years later that he is on the autism spectrum.
The other relationship with a man on the autism spectrum ended after 2.5 years.
I also learned that I was going about it all wrong and I figured out why.
NOW MY CAREER IS DEVOTED TO HELPING MEN AND WOMEN
FIX THEIR OWN AUTISM SPECTRUM RELATIONSHIPS